当然，要脚踏实地。只是有时我们以为的是，并非真的是。我们必需具有一双看清真相的眼睛。不是只看到事物外表，而是更看到内在的真相。
我遇到过这样的例子：一个妻子总埋怨本人的老公，赚钱才能差，不思进取，整天游手好闲，打麻将，喝酒。话是没有错的，她的老公的确如今的表现就是这样的。而真相是：这个妻子由于小时分被教育一定要强，一定要比男人还强，这样你才会平安，才有掌控权。而妻子为什么要强呢？由于她有一个伤是关于重男轻女的，她觉得只要女人变强了才不会被伤害，她不想再体验受伤的觉得。所以她就有认识地选择了一个从小就不自信的老公，总是依赖妈妈的老公。她给老公钱花，让老公听话，让本人体验一份平安。而这样的状况并不能持续太久。时间长了，老公一方面心理上也想要生长，而另一方面行为上本人又不愿意去承当本人的义务。老婆，由于要强，在外面打拼卖力，很辛劳，回头看看那些不是很强的女性也过着幸福的日子，心有不平。本人这么累，为了什么呢？冤枉，埋怨就来了。看那些弱弱的女人，她们家的老公都承当起了家庭的义务。而本人内心实践上也是一个弱女子，却硬要变成一个和男人一样强的女人。这其中的辛劳，只要本人晓得。埋怨和冤枉以及对本人的愤恨都会转嫁给本人的老公，仿佛都是老公的错。事实呢？真相呢？就是集体无认识的重男轻女会成为很多个体，特别是对女性的伤。而女性天生就是比拟敏感，缺乏平安感，更容易体验到那个伤。
一个家庭单位，出了问题，一定是一个女人出了问题，这是一个源头。当一个带着伤的女人，去成立一个家庭时，灾难其实曾经来临这个家了。这也是真相。
假如只是说女人出了问题，可能会很多人质疑。男人们难道没有问题吗？在我个人的经历以及咨询中：没有一例婚姻问题的本源是由于男人，这是一个很神奇的事情。但是作为处理问题的我们，一定要找到那个本源。问题的本源，就是女人。
早在，石器时期，以至更早，男人们外出打猎，而女人们在家照顾孩子和老人，发明一个能够安放男人的家。男人的心，常常是向外的，具有拓展认识的。而女人的心，常常是向内的，具有维护认识的。当女人不在本人的位置时，那个男人曾经疯掉了。由于不断向外，不晓得为什么，只会变得猖獗，最后消灭。
当一个男人找不到家时，这个男人就会开端消灭、战争，而这都是源于一个女人不懂得爱本人的男人。假如你看到一个人的要，一定要给予“不给”，由于每个人都有足够的才能让本人过上更好的生活。有时，不给看上去很绝情，但是底下是深深地爱。要时辰坚持觉知，苏醒的认识。
女人们，释放你们体内的洪荒之力，迸发你们的力气，让它来发明而不是消灭。
all the problems in the woman, because the power of prehistoric woman body in women having the power of destruction and creation.
of course, to be realistic. but sometimes we think is not really yes. we must have a pair of eyes to see the truth. not only see the surface of things, but more to see the inner truth.
i encountered such examples: a wife always complain about their husband, money poor, lazy, idle all day, playing mahjong and drinking. words are not wrong, her husband really are behaving like this. the truth is: the wife because a child is education must be strong, must be stronger than men, so that you will be safe, have control over. why is it stronger and his wife? because she has a wound is about patriarchal, she felt only women become strong it will not be hurt, she did not want to experience the hurt feelings. so she had consciously chosen a husband grew up not confident, always dependent on the mother&dots husband. she gave her husband money, let her husband obedient, let yourself experience a safe. and such a situation does not last long. a long time, and her husband on the one hand psychologically want to grow, but on the other hand on the behavior of their own and do not want to take their own responsibility. wife, because strong, hard on the outside work hard, very hard, look back at those who are not strong women are living a happy life, the heart has grievances. himself so tired, for what? grievances, complaining came. look at those with weak woman, her family husband have to assume the family responsibilities. and his heart is actually a weak woman, but insists become as strong as a man and a woman. this is one of hard work, only you know. complaints and grievances and anger will be passed on to their own husband, as if all her husband&dots fault. facts? the truth? is the collective unconscious of patriarchal will be a lot of individuals, especially women&dots injuries. while women are inherently more sensitive, insecure, more likely to experience the hurt.
a family unit, out of the question, it must be a woman out of the question, which is a source. when a woman with injuries, to set up a family when, in fact, has come to this disaster home. this is the truth.
if you just say that a woman is a problem, a lot of people might be questioned. men is not the problem? in my personal experience and consultation: no root cause of the problem is an example of marriage because the man, this is a very wonderful thing. but as a solution to the problems we, must find the root causes. root of the problem, is a woman.
as early stone age, and even earlier, the men are out hunting, and the women at home to take care of children and the elderly, can be placed to a man&dots home. man&dots heart, is often outside, with expanded consciousness. the woman&dots heart, often inward, with the protection consciousness. when a woman is not in their position, the men have gone mad. as has been out, i do not know why, just get mad, and finally destroyed.
when a man can not find at home, the man will begin the destruction, the war, which are derived from a woman does not know how to love their men. if you see a person you want to be sure to give "do not give", because everyone has sufficient capacity to allow himself to live a better life. sometimes, they do not give looks very unsympathetic, but underneath is a deep love. to keep aware, waking consciousness.
women, you force the release of the body&dots prehistoric outbreak your strength, to rather than destroy it.知春寒
